Reproductive Choice…Who Gets To Choose?

Now I realize that many of you may think that this is going to be a discussion about the rights of women to choose abortion as an option, however this discussion is not really about that.  This discussion is about the woman’s right to choose, and the man being stuck with that choice and forced to be a parent even though they don’t want to be.

I have been thinking on this issue and am really wondering if we as females are not taking too much liberty with this freedom.  Let’s say you have sex with someone, a one night stand and become pregnant.  Now, let’s say that as soon as you realize that you are pregnant, you contact that man and let him know.  Shouldn’t he really have the right to let you know whether he wants to be a father or not? I mean eventually the choice will be left up to you anyway, but if he doesn’t want a child and expresses that from the onset, should he not be able to relinquish the rights and responsibilities of being parent to that child? I just think that these days women take too many liberties with child birth and their role in it.  I mean I don’t think that any man should be a father if he isn’t going to it right.

I can speak on this topic since I never sued my ex for support for my daughter, never forced him to see her.  Then once I was settled into a new relationship with a good man who wanted to be her father, I immediately and permanently took away his rights.  I don’t see why any woman would want a man interacting with their child when there is resentment in his heart.

Also, I don’t think that it is right for women to not tell a man that they are having his child or to mislead him in paternity in any way.  It is important to be forth right and honest.  If you know that you are having a baby, then he should know this from the beginning as well so he can prepare for becoming a father.  Waiting 5 years and then forcing him into a DNA test, just to get child support, is just wrong, not only for the father but for the child as well.  In my opinion if you don’t let the father know about the baby right away, then you should not have the right to come back years later and ask him for money.  That is just wrong!